If you tend to go overboard in things . . . working, exercising, relationships, or some other aspect of your life, then you might be stuck in the overachievement trap.
In this Facebook Live, I talked about what's probably underneath it all—self-doubt—and some tips for what to do, starting today, to feel competent, make progress, and enjoy less tension in your life.
Experiencing letdown after letdown can be maddening, and if you aren't careful, it can turn you into a sourpuss—and that can leave you feeling pretty lonely.
In this live training, I covered how your own expectations are setting you up for letdowns, and how to adjust your approach, so you start producing ease and gratification instead of disappointment.
When you're facing a stressful event or caught up in an emotional conversation or other situation, it's easy to get swept away by your emotions. When that happens, you're prone to acting (and reacting) in ways that make matters worse.
Here are a couple of tools that you can use in real time to calm yourself down, so you stay in better control of your decision-making, plus feel more relaxed and at ease.
Have you ever found yourself taking on the role of your own worst enemy? Thinking things about yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else, and believing all of them, too?
Here I give you a couple of tips for handling negative self-talk in a healthy way: without ignoring it, but without being hostage to it, either, so you can feel confident and motivated, and make the best decisions for you.
Receiving a random act of kindness like an unexpected compliment or words of encouragement feels great. But connecting with people and supporting them doesn't have to stop at expressing a positive opinion of someone.
It can be as powerful, or even more powerful, to let someone know about the positive influence they had on you. Here’s how I tried it with a perfect stranger. Maybe you want to give it try in your life?
It’s not entirely bad to worry. Worrying helps motivate us to take care of business.
But it isn’t all that fun or relaxing. Plus, it can snowball into an anxiety disorder—and does for a large percentage of the population.
Fortunately, mindfulness meditation can help you be less tortured by thoughts of the future, and settle more comfortably into the present.
It's fashionable for people to claim they don't care what others think of them. But that's rarely the case, and that's a good thing! (We are social beings, after all.)
But balancing others' opinions of us with following our own North Star—that's the challenge, and even more so if you use social media. In this video I cover some of the research and give you three truths to bear in mind in order to savor social connection while avoiding some big pitfalls.
When things don’t work out the way we want them to, that temporary disappointment can easily fester into self-doubt and demoralization. But the solution isn’t just to stop expecting things to work out, or having goals. What fun would that be, anyway?
Here I cover an important shift you can make, that lets you have healthy hopes, dreams, and expectations, and also be happy and satisfied with a variety of different outcomes.
Have you ever had a hard time relaxing or focusing because your mind was too busy thinking about the past or future? When your mind seems to have a mind of its own, you can start to think that it’s your enemy . . . but it's not—it's actually trying to help you.
Here I share how shifting your perspective on your wandering mind can inspire kindness and gentleness with yourself in your meditation practice.
It’s easy to become discouraged when you face setbacks, don’t feel as happy as you’d like to be, or aren’t making as much progress toward your goals as you’d like.
These three ideas can help you stay motivated and positive, and go easy on yourself, especially when life isn’t going easy on you. Try saying them to yourself out loud for a week, and see what you think.
Mindfulness meditation practice has a lot of psychological and physical health benefits, some of which are especially helpful for thriving at work.
Now, you might wonder how you're supposed to practice mindfulness meditation at work or home, when you're already busy. Or worry that you'll lose your competitive edge if you get more mindful. I have some answers and good news for you here.
Last time, we covered techniques for coping with anger wisely once it strikes. Here, we look at anger from the bottom up: what causes anger in the first place.
Anger can be a valuable tool, pointing you to parts of yourself that want you to take action, or need some attention or healing. Couple that with the skills I covered last time, and you can start to make progress toward a less volatile and more pleasant life—for yourself and the people around you.
When life pulls a fast one on you, it can throw you for a loop and set you up for a downward spiral.
This FREE download gives you six simple steps for resilience in difficult times, so you make it through strong and healthy.
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