It's fashionable for people to claim they don't care what others think of them. But that's rarely the case, and that's a good thing! (We are social beings, after all.)
But balancing others' opinions of us with following our own North Star—that's the challenge, and even more so if you use social media. In this video I cover some of the research and give you three truths to bear in mind in order to savor social connection while avoiding some big pitfalls.
When things don’t work out the way we want them to, that temporary disappointment can easily fester into self-doubt and demoralization. But the solution isn’t just to stop expecting things to work out, or having goals. What fun would that be, anyway?
Here I cover an important shift you can make, that lets you have healthy hopes, dreams, and expectations, and also be happy and satisfied with a variety of different outcomes.
Have you ever had a hard time relaxing or focusing because your mind was too busy thinking about the past or future? When your mind seems to have a mind of its own, you can start to think that it’s your enemy . . . but it's not—it's actually trying to help you.
Here I share how shifting your perspective on your wandering mind can inspire kindness and gentleness with yourself in your meditation practice.
It’s easy to become discouraged when you face setbacks, don’t feel as happy as you’d like to be, or aren’t making as much progress toward your goals as you’d like.
These three ideas can help you stay motivated and positive, and go easy on yourself, especially when life isn’t going easy on you. Try saying them to yourself out loud for a week, and see what you think.
Mindfulness meditation practice has a lot of psychological and physical health benefits, some of which are especially helpful for thriving at work.
Now, you might wonder how you're supposed to practice mindfulness meditation at work or home, when you're already busy. Or worry that you'll lose your competitive edge if you get more mindful. I have some answers and good news for you here.
Last time, we covered techniques for coping with anger wisely once it strikes. Here, we look at anger from the bottom up: what causes anger in the first place.
Anger can be a valuable tool, pointing you to parts of yourself that want you to take action, or need some attention or healing. Couple that with the skills I covered last time, and you can start to make progress toward a less volatile and more pleasant life—for yourself and the people around you.
Anger is a natural human emotion, but emotional blow-ups can cause problems. On the other hand, trying to stuff anger down isn't good for you, because it breeds resentment and leads to even bigger blow-ups in the future.
In this video I walk you through three tips for changing the way you respond when anger strikes, so you can stop shooting yourself in the foot.
Have you ever wanted to speak up or take courageous action, but fear held you back? Growth and improvement require change—and therefore taking risk—and if you play it too safe, you can end up regretting it.
Here's how to strike the perfect balance between risk and safety, so you can seize new opportunities wisely and confidently when they arise.
Here are a couple of tips for increasing your motivation and achieving your goals, whether they're New Year's resolutions or any others throughout the year. Also, what types of goals to set to increase your happiness, whether you achieve them or not.
It's easy to get hung up on the pursuit of extrinsic pursuits like money and power, but those aren't the path to a deep sense of happiness and fulfillment in the long run.
In this brief segment for WSLS in Virginia, I discuss why an intrinsic orientation can help you to achieve the kind of life you probably really want.
Whether you're able to achieve them or not, fixating on the pursuit of extrinsic goals like money, cars, and clothes tends to backfire on you. Yet, that's exactly what society conditions us to do.
In this segment for San Antonio's Daytime @ Nine, I discuss how you can reorient your efforts toward intrinsic goals, and start feeling better right now.
Dads don't need to be superheros to make a big difference in their kids' lives (and neither do moms, by the way).
In this interview for the San Diego Living morning show, I stress the need for dads to take it easier on themselves, and provide some communication tips they can use to form stronger bonds with their kids.
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