Sometimes it seems like there is no right choice to make, and it’s enough to drive people nuts. But before you react to your emotions, flip a coin, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider taking a moment to stay with the uncertainty.
Arriving at “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the answer to your question, but in mastering your life.
Whether it’s a job loss, the death of a loved one, having your identity stolen, or a million other types of setback, we’re dealt difficulty at every turn in life.
Crises break you down in order to break you open. The process of coming to terms with them is the way we evolve and grow in all the ways that really matter.
Here’s why your next crisis might be the best thing that could happen for you.
You may not like being bored, but there’s a case to be made for boredom being very good for you, if sometimes you just let it be (or even induce it!), settle into it, and see where it leads. Sometimes it even makes sense to induce boredom!
On the other side of boredom is clarity, insight, and stillness that, at a minimum, can be a healthy and pleasant break for you and, at best, can help you discover new solutions for old problems.
Don't you hate it when you’re trying to work but you keep drifting off onto a different task, or daydreaming or playing on your phone? Losing focus can mean losing a whole day, and your momentum.
In this second part of my productivity series, I provide tips for getting your focus on target and keeping it there. With a little practice, you can build your focus "muscle," so you can finish tasks efficiently and move on to the next thing with peace of mind.
People usually think of procrastination as a problem with focus, willpower, or self-doubt, and that brute force is the best way to deal with it. These things aren’t necessarily true.
Here’s a fresh way to understand procrastination—as a function of your creativity and imagination. Learn how to make space for creativity in your life, and put it to good use, so you get unstuck and feel inspired to take action right now.
Sometimes it can feel like important parts of ourselves have been left behind or lost to the sands of time. It happened to me, when I came to fear that I’d lost a colorful, vibrant part of me from my youth.
It took something as simple as a pair of shoes to help me realize that it had been with me the whole time. You need to know that any “lost” parts of you are hiding in plain sight . . . and they're counting on you to continue looking for them.
Fear’s a natural part of life—and it’s helpful!—so being fearless all the time isn’t actually healthy. It becomes a problem when it keeps you stuck in situations that don’t feel good, or prevents you from making progress toward your goals.
In this video I give you five ways you can start getting unstuck today, while acknowledging, and not ignoring, your concerns, so you can move forward in a healthy way.
Everyone has experienced regret, whether it's the work project you screwed up, the opportunity you missed, or the relationship you lost.
Here, I cover some of the quirks of the human brain that can fuel the cycle of regret.
Then I give you three ways to help you stop letting yourself down, and instead move forward wisely and confidently.
If you tend to go overboard in things . . . working, exercising, relationships, or some other aspect of your life, then you might be stuck in the overachievement trap.
In this Facebook Live, I talked about what's probably underneath it all—self-doubt—and some tips for what to do, starting today, to feel competent, make progress, and enjoy less tension in your life.
Experiencing letdown after letdown can be maddening, and if you aren't careful, it can turn you into a sourpuss—and that can leave you feeling pretty lonely.
In this live training, I covered how your own expectations are working against you, and how to adjust your approach, so you start producing ease and gratification instead of disappointment.
When you're facing a stressful event or caught up in an emotional conversation or other situation, it's easy to get swept away by your emotions. When that happens, you're prone to acting (and reacting) in ways that make matters worse.
Here are a couple of tools that you can use in real time to calm yourself down, so you stay in better control of your decision-making, plus feel more relaxed and at ease.
Have you ever found yourself taking on the role of your own worst enemy? Thinking things about yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else, and believing all of them, too?
Here I give you a couple of tips for handling negative self-talk in a healthy way: without ignoring it, but without being hostage to it, either, so you can feel confident and motivated, and make the best decisions for you.
When life pulls a fast one on you, it can destabilize you and set you up for a downward spiral.
This FREE download gives you six simple steps for resilience in difficult times, so you make it through strong and healthy.
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