Many people take the brute-force approach to achievement: just work hard to get what you want. And if you don't get it, then you obviously haven't worked hard enough, right?
Well, achievement depends on a lot more than effort. Also, the nature of what we're striving for plays a big role in our overall well-being, whether we're successful in getting it or not. There's a lot to say on the topic, so I put together the seven-part series (and an overview of it) for you in the link box.
That, and the other links, are a good place to start. Then, check out some of the other content and free resources below.
If you’re stuck not knowing what to do next, because you aren’t sure what the right choice is, that’s not entirely bad. Before you flip a coin, react unwisely to the emotions you’re feeling, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider staying with the uncertainty for a while.
Even in situations where it seems like your choices are equally good—or bad!—and you’re feeling confused and worried, arriving at your “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the right answer, but mastering your life.
Crises come in all different magnitudes, but they’re all anxiety-provoking, and that usually causes people to avoid them or tune out the pain and difficulty they bring.
But when you do that, you’re turning a blind eye to a beautiful and miraculous process. Difficult times are a prerequisite for growth, and crises are the signs of a life fully lived.
You may not like being bored, but boredom can actually be very good for you if sometimes you just let it be, settle into it, and see where it leads. It can even be good to induce boredom sometimes!
On the other side of boredom is clarity, insight, and stillness that, at a minimum, can be a healthy and pleasant break for you and, at best, can help you discover new solutions for old problems.
Sometimes, even when you’re super motivated to get work done, distraction kicks in, and you start working on something less important, daydreaming, or playing around on your phone. Loss of focus can cost you your momentum and whole days of lost productivity.
Here are a few tips for getting your focus on target and keeping it there. With a little practice, you can build your focus "muscle," and start finishing tasks efficiently and moving on to the next thing with peace of mind.
Procrastination is often deemed a problem with focus, willpower, or self-doubt, but that’s not the whole story. Also, simply making more effort isn’t necessarily the best approach for dealing with it.
Recent research identifies a connection between procrastination and your imagination, and points to a fresh way of getting unstuck and feeling inspired to take action right now. Here I walk you through the steps for doing just that, which have proven helpful for me and my clients.
Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud.
For some people, it’s a matter of faith that every cloud has a silver lining. However, making meaning from difficulties is a very human, personal process that often requires effort, and not just blind faith.
Here’s are the top three ideas that, if you can internalize them, can help you bring resilience, performance, peace, and happiness into your life, and keep it there.
Change is headed your way, whether you like it—and whether you see it coming—or not. Here are five ways to handle life transitions like a pro, and come out the other side stronger and happier.
Fear can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.
Self-doubt is rampant, especially among high functioning professionals. Procrastination and workaholism are just a couple of symptoms. Here's how to tell if you may be suffering from it, and what to do about it.
New Year's resolutions are notorious for flaming out quickly. Here's what you need to know about how to create lasting, positive change and feel great while doing it.
A reader of mine wanted to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Here's why it can be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and how mindfulness can help.
Everyone is afraid of something or other, but too much of it can be debilitating and keep you unhappy. Here are five quick tips for conquering your fears and taking your life back.
Change or growth require effort now, hopefully for a reward later. But if you call this "delayed gratification," you're making things harder than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.
If your mood suffers on the weekend, it might be the "Sunday neurosis." Research shows that it's more common among educated people, and it also highlights things we already knew about the importance of work to your well-being.
If you've ever been awestruck by something you witnessed, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Turns out, the conditions you need for those experiences happen to be similar to those for a sublime life.
Satisfying cravings is sheer bliss . . . at least at first. Here's how craving works—including why you might crave things you don’t even like—and what happens in your brain when you indulge them.
In Part One we covered that suspense is a gratifying variation on fear. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and how to start enjoying more of the uncertainty that life brings your way.
Facing the unknown in your life can be scary. But fear, mixed with delight and hope, produces enjoyable suspense. Here's how to start converting one to the other, so you can enjoy your cliffhanger moments.
You can be the highest performer in the world and still be burned out and unhappy. My free, 28-page guide explains why that is and what you can do, not just to keep moving, but to move toward an energized, empowered, and fulfilled life.
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