We're bombarded with messages in society about how to be happy that do more harm than good. Things like white teeth, nice cars, substances, and clothes are supposed to do it for us, according to Madison Avenue. But you already know that what you're looking for can't be bought or put in your mouth.
The "work-life balance" we're supposed to seek is also an inadequate solution. Both of these approaches can actually prevent you from having the deep sense of happiness and well-being you're looking for.
So, what's the answer? Start by checking out my top articles using the links to the right, and then explore some of the other content and free resources below.
If you’ve ever had to contend with a toxic coworker, a relative who gives you a hard time, or someone else you feel stuck with, who torments you, then you may have felt helpless to do anything but fight fire with fire. But there’s another option: be wise and strategic in your response, to defuse conflict and use the situation for your personal growth. Here’s how to do it.
Here’s are the top three ideas that, if you can internalize them, can help you bring resilience, performance, peace, and happiness into your life, and keep it there.
I gave a lecture series aboard a cruise ship, helping people find meaning and purpose in their daily lives. Before the trip was over, I’d have found a source of meaning just for me, lying on a remote beach, waiting for me to discover it.
Change is headed your way, whether you like it—and whether you see it coming—or not. Here are five ways to handle life transitions like a pro, and come out the other side stronger and happier.
Fear can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.
Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.
Self-doubt is rampant, especially among high functioning professionals. Procrastination and workaholism are just a couple of symptoms. Here's how to tell if you may be suffering from it, and what to do about it.
New Year's resolutions are notorious for flaming out quickly. Here's what you need to know about how to create lasting, positive change and feel great while doing it.
As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. Here's how best to cope with it when it happens. Also, how hurt feelings can point to things inside you that could use some attention.
A reader of mine wanted to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Here's why it can be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and how mindfulness can help.
When you're in a toxic relationship with a friend who has an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here's a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of distress.
Your mind is an important part of your body, so be sure to include it in your fitness program. Mindfulness meditation provides a wealth of mental and physical health benefits, and helps you achieve whole-life fitness.
Everyone is afraid of something or other, but too much of it can be debilitating and keep you unhappy. Here are five quick tips for conquering your fears and taking your life back.
Change or growth require effort now, hopefully for a reward later. But if you call this "delayed gratification," you're making things harder than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.
If your mood suffers on the weekend, it might be the "Sunday neurosis." Research shows that it's more common among educated people, and it also highlights things we already knew about the importance of work to your well-being.
If you've ever been awestruck by something you witnessed, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Turns out, the conditions you need for those experiences happen to be similar to those for a sublime life.
Satisfying cravings is sheer bliss . . . at least at first. Here's how craving works—including why you might crave things you don’t even like—and what happens in your brain when you indulge them.
Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud.
In this follow-up, I propose considering difficult people separately from their deeds. It's how you can approach (and leave) your relationships with them in a wise and compassionate way works for you.
So-called "toxic" people act in opposition to happiness and healthy functioning—theirs and yours. Here, I explore how you can begin to understand and work with such people, and the dangers you face.