The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

If you’re stuck not knowing what to do next, because you aren’t sure what the right choice is, that’s not entirely bad. Before you flip a coin, react unwisely to the emotions you’re feeling, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider staying with the uncertainty for a while.

Even in situations where it seems like your choices are equally good—or bad!—and you’re feeling confused and worried, arriving at your “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the right answer, but mastering your life.

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud. 

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"Everything Happens for a Reason": The Fact and Fiction Behind the Cliché

"Everything Happens for a Reason": The Fact and Fiction Behind the Cliché

For some people, it’s a matter of faith that every cloud has a silver lining. However, making meaning from difficulties is a very human, personal process that often requires effort, and not just blind faith.

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How Cravings Bite the Hand That Feeds Them

How Cravings Bite the Hand That Feeds Them

Satisfying cravings is sheer bliss . . . at least at first. Here's how craving works—including why you might crave things you don’t even like—and what happens in your brain when you indulge them.

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How to Cope With Toxic People, Part Two

How to Cope With Toxic People, Part Two

In this follow-up, I propose considering difficult people separately from their deeds. It's how you can approach (and leave) your relationships with them in a wise and compassionate way works for you.

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How to Cope With Toxic People, Part One

How to Cope With Toxic People, Part One

So-called "toxic" people act in opposition to happiness and healthy functioning—theirs and yours. Here, I explore how you can begin to understand and work with such people, and the dangers you face.  

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Balancing Independence and Connection

Balancing Independence and Connection

Society's emphasis on independence sometimes minimizes our fundamental connection to each other. Whether you're walking down the street or talking to your partner, every action and non-action affects them, and you.

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How to Achieve Your Goals: The Top Eight Things You Need to Know

How to Achieve Your Goals: The Top Eight Things You Need to Know

My series on effective and healthy goal achievement has stretched over six months, so you're forgiven if you've missed a few. Here are the high points. 

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Emotional Contagion: Connecting by Catching Feelings

Emotional Contagion: Connecting by Catching Feelings

Ever experienced an emotional boost when you encountered a friend with a big smile on her face? If so, it isn’t your imagination; humans are hardwired for attunement with one another. Here's the science of it.

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How to Achieve Your Goals, Step 7: Inhibitional Goals and the "What the Hell Effect"

How to Achieve Your Goals, Step 7: Inhibitional Goals and the "What the Hell Effect"

Have you ever completely abandoned your goal after one slip-up? You might throw in the towel because you're applying the wrong goal-setting strategy. 

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