Finding Stability When Life Feels Uncertain and Chaotic

Finding Stability When Life Feels Uncertain and Chaotic

Amidst the uncertainty of a major life transition, it’s impossible to plan for every possibility ahead. But we don’t need to. We can see, even in nature, that there is an underlying order to things, even in the most chaotic times. We have an internal order, too.

When we learn to trust these, while also exercising our own wisdom where we can, we can make it through the difficult times and access our full potential.

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How to Deal with Crisis and Difficult Times

How to Deal with Crisis and Difficult Times

Crises come in all different magnitudes, but they’re all anxiety-provoking, and that usually causes people to avoid them or tune out the pain and difficulty they bring.

But when you do that, you’re turning a blind eye to a beautiful and miraculous process. Difficult times are a prerequisite for growth, and crises are the signs of a life fully lived.

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How Boredom Can Help You Succeed

How Boredom Can Help You Succeed

You may not like being bored, but boredom can actually be very good for you if sometimes you just let it be, settle into it, and see where it leads. It can even be good to induce boredom sometimes!

On the other side of boredom is clarity, insight, and stillness that, at a minimum, can be a healthy and pleasant break for you and, at best, can help you discover new solutions for old problems.

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How to Get Focused and Stay Focused

How to Get Focused and Stay Focused

No matter how motivated you are to start, distraction is always ready to strike. Here's how to get your focus on target and keep it there, so you can finish tasks efficiently and move on to the next thing with peace of mind.

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How to Stop Procrastination the Creative Way

How to Stop Procrastination the Creative Way

Procrastination is often deemed a problem with focus, willpower, or self-doubt, but that’s not the whole story. Also, simply making more effort isn’t necessarily the best approach for dealing with it.

Recent research identifies a connection between procrastination and your imagination, and points to a fresh way of getting unstuck and feeling inspired to take action right now. Here I walk you through the steps for doing just that, which have proven helpful for me and my clients.

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"Everything Happens for a Reason": The Fact and Fiction Behind the Cliché

"Everything Happens for a Reason": The Fact and Fiction Behind the Cliché

For some people, it’s a matter of faith that every cloud has a silver lining. However, making meaning from difficulties is a very human, personal process that often requires effort, and not just blind faith.

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How to Talk to Difficult People . . . and Be Glad You Did

How to Talk to Difficult People . . . and Be Glad You Did

If you’ve ever had to contend with a toxic coworker, a relative who gives you a hard time, or someone else you feel stuck with, who torments you, then you may have felt helpless to do anything but fight fire with fire. But there’s another option: be wise and strategic in your response, to defuse conflict and use the situation for your personal growth. Here’s how to do it.

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How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

Fear can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.

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What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

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