The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

If you’re stuck not knowing what to do next, because you aren’t sure what the right choice is, that’s not entirely bad. Before you flip a coin, react unwisely to the emotions you’re feeling, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider staying with the uncertainty for a while.

Even in situations where it seems like your choices are equally good—or bad!—and you’re feeling confused and worried, arriving at your “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the right answer, but mastering your life.

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"Everything Happens for a Reason": The Fact and Fiction Behind the Cliché

"Everything Happens for a Reason": The Fact and Fiction Behind the Cliché

For some people, it’s a matter of faith that every cloud has a silver lining. However, making meaning from difficulties is a very human, personal process that often requires effort, and not just blind faith.

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How to Talk to Difficult People . . . and Be Glad You Did

How to Talk to Difficult People . . . and Be Glad You Did

If you’ve ever had to contend with a toxic coworker, a relative who gives you a hard time, or someone else you feel stuck with, who torments you, then you may have felt helpless to do anything but fight fire with fire. But there’s another option: be wise and strategic in your response, to defuse conflict and use the situation for your personal growth. Here’s how to do it.

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Three Daily Affirmations for People Who Don't Like Affirmations

Three Daily Affirmations for People Who Don't Like Affirmations

Here’s are the top three ideas that, if you can internalize them, can help you bring resilience, performance, peace, and happiness into your life, and keep it there.

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How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

How to Get Unstuck When Fear is Holding You Back

Fear can show up even when you know you're making the best decision, so it's not a reliable indicator of what to do. Or is it? Here's how to get unstuck, and even use fear to your advantage, when it starts to creep up on you.

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Six Ways to Achieve Your Resolutions and Feel Happier All Year

Six Ways to Achieve Your Resolutions and Feel Happier All Year

New Year's resolutions are notorious for flaming out quickly. Here's what you need to know about how to create lasting, positive change and feel great while doing it.

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Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. Here's how best to cope with it when it happens. Also, how hurt feelings can point to things inside you that could use some attention.

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When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

When you're in a toxic relationship with a friend who has an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here's a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of distress. 

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Three Communication Habits You Need for a Successful New Marriage (Or Any Other Relationship)

Three Communication Habits You Need for a Successful New Marriage (Or Any Other Relationship)

Relationships seem easy in the honeymoon phase . . . and it's easy to fall into bad habits. It's actually the perfect time to establish healthy communication styles that will bear fruit for years to come.

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Embracing the Imperfect Mother

Embracing the Imperfect Mother

Moms often feel internal and external pressure to be perfect. Here I break down the "perfect mother" myth and give some tips for taking care of yourself, and appreciating how good you are already. 

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