The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

The Power of Not Knowing What to Do

If you’re stuck not knowing what to do next, because you aren’t sure what the right choice is, that’s not entirely bad. Before you flip a coin, react unwisely to the emotions you’re feeling, or pretend you know what you’re doing, consider staying with the uncertainty for a while.

Even in situations where it seems like your choices are equally good—or bad!—and you’re feeling confused and worried, arriving at your “I don’t know” is an important step in not just finding the right answer, but mastering your life.

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Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Three Things You Can Do to Stop Being Haunted by Regret

Regret is your mind's way of keeping you from repeating mistakes, but when it hangs around it can do more harm than good. Here I cover how your mind lays the groundwork for regret and how you can nip it in the bud. 

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What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

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Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. Here's how best to cope with it when it happens. Also, how hurt feelings can point to things inside you that could use some attention.

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Unhealthy Relationships With Food: When Eating Is What's Eating You

Unhealthy Relationships With Food: When Eating Is What's Eating You

A reader of mine wanted to hear more about unhealthy relationships with food. Here's why it can be so hard to eat the types and amounts of food we want to, and how mindfulness can help.

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Trying to Get Fit? Don't Neglect Your Mind.

Trying to Get Fit? Don't Neglect Your Mind.

Your mind is an important part of your body, so be sure to include it in your fitness program. Mindfulness meditation provides a wealth of mental and physical health benefits, and helps you achieve whole-life fitness. 

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Five Ways to Start Conquering Your Fears Today

Five Ways to Start Conquering Your Fears Today

Everyone is afraid of something or other, but too much of it can be debilitating and keep you unhappy. Here are five quick tips for conquering your fears and taking your life back. 

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Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Change or growth require effort now, hopefully for a reward later. But if you call this "delayed gratification," you're making things harder than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

In Part One we covered that suspense is a gratifying variation on fear. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and how to start enjoying more of the uncertainty that life brings your way. 

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Facing the unknown in your life can be scary. But fear, mixed with delight and hope, produces enjoyable suspense. Here's how to start converting one to the other, so you can enjoy your cliffhanger moments.

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